Brought Up By Booze: Calum Best & Healing as a Child of an Alcoholic

Quotes

“Thinking about growing up, one of my strongest memories was coming to Manchester with dad when I was 11. We stayed here at my dad’s favourite hotel. Coming back, I’m reminded of how unpredictable and confusing being around an alcoholic can really be … I was left overnight not knowing where my dad had gone.”

“I think he probably knew. I think if he was waking up at 8 o’clock in the morning and going to a drink but what I found out through filming a documentary called ‘Brought Up by Booze’ about children of alcoholics is that the illness is so intense that it tells you to cut out anybody who tells you not to drink because your brain tells you ‘No, no, no! That person doesn’t like you because they’re stopping you from being happy.”
Ireland AM Interview

“Understanding what adults do when they’re drunk is tough when you’re a kid. The girls I’m meeting at London Zoo have all had an alcoholic parent or relative. They have support through a self-help group called Alateen.”

“As soon as I started to get older, I was going to friend’s houses and I’d see that none of them were making their own dinner. None of them were making sure that their mom or dad was in from the pub and in bed or somewhere safe. I think it started to click with me then that there’s something wrong, but because I idolized my dad, I didn’t want to admit it.“

“Early on I found out there was a problem. I knew something was wrong but I didn’t know what it was called. I knew it was the drinking, but I didn’t know it was called ‘alcoholic’.”

YOUTH IN ALATEEN

“I actually walked into my mom’s room and found about 20-30 empty bottles of vodka just laying across the side of the bed. It scared me because I thought ‘how can anyone drink that much?’“

“You say ‘Dont let me drink’, but what can I do? I am a child so I depend on you. You can only stop yourself, so what can I do? I’m sorry now I can’t help you, I don’t know how to. You say ‘Don’t let me drink’, but what can I do?”

During filming, Best met children who were self-harming to cope with a parent’s drinking. “I don’t like the thought of some children, who could be doing so much in their lives, at home cutting their arms up because their parent has got a drink problem and isn’t there for them,” he says.
The Guardian – Brought Up By Booze

“It’s still hard for me to accept that alcohol took my father’s life. But some children have to say goodbye while their parents are still alive. Danielle is getting married next year but her mother won’t be there. Her mother’s drinking got out of control when Danielle was just 11 and she still drinks heavily today.”

“Over half of the people here will have children at home who have been directly affected by their addiction. For every one person addicted there’s going to be at least 3-4 people connected to them who are affected by addiction on very much the same levels as the addict.”